Welcome to Karlijn Coaching

Karlijn Coaching specializes in helping individuals cope with the impact of loving someone with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. Whether you’re a sibling, friend, (ex-)partner, child, or parent of someone with one of these disorders, the emotional toll can be profound. Especially for adult children who grew up with or were raised by a parent with these traits, the effects can be lifelong.
Feelings of being unseen or unheard, struggling with legitimacy, trust, and connection, fear of sudden anger or emotional outbursts, complete emotional disconnection, endless criticism, rejection, and emotional neglect — all these experiences shape your own development

Through both personal experience and my role as national coordinator at the Borderline Foundation, I’ve developed a deep understanding of the inner world of those affected, as well as the most effective ways to navigate these relationships.
- How and where do you set boundaries?
- How do love and self-protection co-exist?
- What’s really happening during confrontations or seemingly irrational reactions?
- Why doesn’t it help when you continuously prove your trustworthiness, and why does mistrust persist?
- What behaviors are conscious? Can change occur?
Most importantly: what can you do for yourself?
There’s no universal answer. But gaining clarity, understanding what’s happening, and learning how to prioritize your own well-being can be transformational.
- What do you truly want?
- How can that desire coexist with the other person’s struggles?
- How do you begin healing from the past?
- And perhaps, do you need to let go?

These questions are never-ending — and that’s where I’m most passionate about helping.
I’ve often been asked to write a book of tips and insights, and for a time I shared content via a YouTube channel. I'm now a certified Jay Shetty Coach, and I’ve discovered that coaching is my true calling. I coach in both Dutch and English.

In today’s world, it’s a gift that sessions can take place online — from a space that feels safe and familiar, while still offering personal connection and real conversation. All sessions are held virtually.
If this resonates with you, I’d love to hear from you. Let’s schedule a free consultation.