Welcome to Karlijn Coaching

Karlijn Coaching specializes in coaching of the impact and coping with a loved one with the borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. Whether you are a brother, sister, friend, (ex)partner, child, or parent of someone with this disorder, it has a significant impact. Especially as an adult child, growing up with and/or being raised by a parent with one of these personality disorders can have a lasting impact.

The feeling of being seen and heard, a sense of legitimacy, trust and connection, fear of unexpected anger or outbursts, completely disconnecting from the other person, endless criticism, rejection, emotional neglect, etc. all influence your own development.

Through my personal experience and my experience as the national coördinator of the Borderline Foundation, I have specialized in translating the inner world of a person with this disorder and the most effective ways to deal with it. Where and how do you set boundaries? How do love and self-protection coexist? How do I understand what's actually happening in confrontations and reactions that seem to come out of nowhere? Why doesn't it help if I constantly prove I'm trustworthy, and why does the mistrust persist? Which behavior is conscious? Can it change?

And above all, what can I do with it for myself?

There's certainly no one-size-fits-all solution. However, understanding what's happening and exploring how best to care for yourself can make a huge difference. What do I really want? And how can I allow that to exist alongside the other person's problems? How do I heal from the past? And do I perhaps even let go? The questions are endless.

This is where I'm most happy to support you. I've been asked several times if I wanted to write a book with tips and tricks, and for a while I did this through a YouTube channel. I'm now a certified Jay Shetty Coach and have discovered that coaching is my greatest strength. I coach in Dutch and English.

In today's world, it's a great advantage that the sessions can be held online.
From a place that feels comfortable and safe for you, while still providing personal contact and a live conversation. All conversations are online.

If that sounds appealing, I'd love to hear from you. We'll schedule a free consultation!